Triggers,triggers everywhere.

 🎶oh the weather outside is frightful, and shopping is NOT delightful..

So many triggers out here at the moment because of the Festive season. It's so fecking drink orientated, it's unreal. TV adverts,cooking shows, staff nights out. Never ending reminder of what I've given up/ living without/ missing out on ( delete as appropriate)

An example and definitely the biggest trigger for me at this current time.  Food shopping! 

Now over the months, I've come to avoid the alcohol aisles. Makes perfect sense- I don't buy it any more. The same as I don't go down the baby food aisle.

So shopping is generally problem free.  Apart from in the festive period when they extend the drinks aisle to pretty much every other fecking aisle. It's fecking everywhere!

I could do with some cheese.. HEY! HEY YOU! YOU KNOW WHAT GOES WITH CHEESE?? WINE! LOOK AT THESE OFFERS!!! 6 BOTTLES FOR 30 QUID! 

Oh, whilst I'm here, I'll pick up some milk."HEY! WHILST YOU'RE HERE, WE'VE GOT SOME BAILEYS ON OFFER! 

I need some loo roll. HAVE A FUCKING GIN!!!

I walked into Sainsburys today and to the right of me just after the entrance was a standee selling Carling Black Label,  I averted my eyes to the left to see a standee for Baretta lager or whatever its called, further down, there's a spirit standee. 

It's not fucking feasible to walk around with my eyes shut! 

It's such bollocks. 

I don't remember this being such a trigger last year. At all. I'd stopped drinking before Christmas last year.  But it definitely didn't upset me as it is doing this year. 

I don't know if it's because I'm taking it more seriously( I didn't expect to do so well being sober, to be fair, when I started this malarkay )

Or maybe it's just one of those things that will always difficult for me and it is what it is and I need to put up/shut up/ cry. ( delete as appropriate). 

I really don't like it though.  This reminder of what I've given up, what i needed to give up,mind you.  

I think I'm upset as well because when I avoid the alcohol aisles throughout the year, it makes the supermarket a safe environment for me to be in. Being confronted by gallons of alcohol is really unsafe!  And Lidl and Aldi are no better to be fair.  The middle of Lidl looks like an off license. I like to peruse the middle of Lidl! But not right now. 

So it's a bit annoying. I know I just need to remind myself that one drink will lead to 5 bottles of nest brandy again and weigh up if it's worth it. 

It's not worth it.

But I could do without it being shoved down my throat. In the proverbial sense.

Tw@ts 


🎶 Beer to the left of me, Spirits to the right, here I am,stuck in the middle with youuuu 

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